Sometimes I ask myself: “Why do I even ask others for opinions when I am going to do what I consider is the best solution in the end?”
I firmly believe when we think we are “indecisive,” deep down, we already know what we want and what we will do.
Our essence knows how we will act, but still, we ask for the opinions of others, seeking confirmation and entering this cycle of perpetual feedback.
You ask the same question, and you get 100 different answers.
In the end, nobody knows you better than you. You know your needs and where you want to go.
Observing myself further why I ask for the opinions of others, I figured there are a couple of reasons:
Certain types of people I ask because I want them to feel important, well-heard, and appreciated. An example of this is my parents. I would ask them for their opinion even tho I probably won’t listen. Why, then I even ask them. It’s simple. That’s one more opportunity for me to show them respect, engage with them, and share present moments. I want them to know their opinion is important to me and that I love sharing hard times, like good ones, with them because I don’t have anybody dearest to me. I want them to know they are an important part of my life.
I ask for feedback from people I look up to since I think they have the right answers, even tho I know I will do it; in the end, I was planning to. Why do I do this? I want to feel good about myself because at least I first asked people above me for advice before I made a decision.
I ask for opinions because that opinion tells me more about the person than the person would know about herself. It is easy to give opinions to others. But do you live by that same values? The discrepancy between a person’s advice and her way of living gives me a clear picture of who they are - a Leader or a Hypocrite. The bigger the dissonance, the bigger hypocrite they are.
I ask for opinions so that later on, I can see who was right, who wasn’t. That helps me filter my circle of friends and business partners. I compare my outcome with their answers to polish my decision-making razor. I project my future based on my critical thinking skill.
It always surprises me how many things we do by default without questioning our actions. Reflect upon your beliefs, look into your soul, and act according to your values.
Life is so abundant,
Love you all,
Angela