There are topics I love to learn about and talk about. = Obsession
There are topics I love to talk about, but I don’t love to teach about. = Passion
And there are topics I love to talk about, but I don’t like to learn about. = Necessity
I needed quite some time to figure out what is my obsession and what is passion.
Picking necessity was easy. But distinguishing passion from obsession required some inner analysis. It seemed to me that I had so many interests and obsessions, but at the same time, felt resentment towards some of them when I had to teach about them.
If you are trying to figure out yourself, the best way to start is from the bottom by trying to identify what you love to talk about but don’t like to learn about.
Here is my self-analysis:
Necessity = Topics I love to talk about but I don’t like to learn about.
The example of this is health and longevity. I would rather be taught this knowledge than acquire it on my own. It’s important to me but not where my curiosity leads me daily. Since self-learning this knowledge doesn’t create any drive in me, I live it as a wonderful opportunity to meet new people. This way, I build relationships with people dear to me and acquire knowledge that benefits me. I enrich the lack of my expertise by engaging with health experts. I programmed my brain to seek each opportunity where I could improve my health. That's why I look forward to talking with experts in the industry about health, and I preserve my solo learning time on topics dear to me.
Passion = Topics I love to talk about, but I don’t love to teach about.
I would add crypto, macroeconomy, and investing in this group of topics. I am passionate about this since my career origins come from here, but it is too masculine space. I don’t feel a fire in my gut preaching this knowledge to others, yet I am passionate about learning everything about these topics.
Yes, it’s possible to love learning about something without telling everybody about it.
Obsession = Topics I love to learn about and talk about.
This is something that lits fire in your gut. Something that gets you moving even if it doesn’t make any sense. Usually, this is something that made a major impact in your life that totally flipped your perception towards life and its core values. For me, it was anxiousness and detachment from my femininity. I had to crack the code in order to get better and survive. I was angry that we were taught everything opposite of what we need to live a fulfilled life. I had to dig deeper to find the answers. I wish some people and communities could teach and support each other this knowledge. You know how they say: “Be the change you want to see in the World. I am doing exactly that - helping females reach their full feminine power. What occupies me right now is learning about gender differences, polarity, the meaning of female life, and building strong communities - network states. Also, health preservation and self-love play a big part.
All your big failures mixed with your perception of it is what makes your obsession just yours. Each obsession is one of a kind. Unique unit in the world. Accept it with wide-opened hands and respect it unapologetically.
Each person imposes the topics most relevant to him and his life experiences. You will notice this clearly if observing one person patiently and sincerely.
His obsession shines through him. His passion is in the depth of her knowledge, and his necessity is his everyday activity.
Let’s take me as an example.
I would talk about gender polarity whenever and to whoever all the time. Still, I would also spend a decent amount of time learning about crypto and investing, even though I never mentioned it to others. And when it comes to necessity, you can see it in my daily schedule. The first thing I do daily is practice and go outside for a walk and vitamin D.
Relationship advice: Find somebody who shares enough similar interests to you, but at the same time, his obsession is not the same as yours so that he can teach you all about it, and you can do the same for him. Teach him all about your obsession. This way, you have two experts from two different areas complementing each other.
Let’s take, for example, Vasilije, my lovely boyfriend:
His obsession is longevity.
His passion is investing.
His necessity is deep, honest relationships.
I love that we match almost perfectly since his obsession is my weak spot (my necessity), we overlap a lot on passion, and his necessity is my priority (my obsession).
To summarize
Obsession = Topics you love to learn about and talk about.
Passion = Topics you love to talk about but don’t love to teach about.
Necessity = Topics you love to talk about but you don’t like to learn about.
+Find somebody that complements your obsession, passion, and necessity.
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