For a long time, I struggled to define success. And finally, when I did it, I ended up with a new open-ended question:
Why does one person gets results and another doesn’t, even tho they both have the same knowledge and sit in the same room with the same clients?
The longer answer is “your ability to influence someone’s attitude, beliefs, intentions, motivation, and behavior by framing information, emotion, and reasoning in a way that is acceptable to that person's perspective.’’
The short answer is NLP.
If you want a more complex answer, you can read my previous post.
So what is NLP, in layman's words?
NLP is how do you as an individual become more successful by communicating better with yourself and having more effective communication with other people.
NLP teaches you how successful people get results and how to emulate that so that you can begin to achieve your results, not mine, not those other people out there, but your results, the results that matter to you, and when you're able to do that and achieve those results you bring in true happiness in your life. - Dr. Matt James
This is the easiest way to describe NLP anything more than that is gonna be getting into technical terms. But let’s get a little further.
NLP was created by Richard Bandler and John Grinder in the 1970s; it has been expanded upon by numerous researchers and authors, including Tony Robbins.
It studies the ways our thoughts affect our behavior. It looks at the ways our brains interpret the signals they receive and how these interpretations affect what we do. It does this through language – the linguistic part of neuro-linguistic programming techniques. By examining how our brains process information, NLP techniques help us to look at our thoughts, feelings, and emotions as things that we can control, rather than things that passively happen to us. [Source: Tonny Robbins]
TOP 5 NLP TECHNIQUES
1. Imagery Training
Imagery training, sometimes called mental rehearsal, The key is to create a highly detailed scene of yourself performing an action successfully. Picture your body language: confident, determined, comfortable. Feel the confidence you exude and the energy that’s around you. Be as detailed as possible. NLP techniques like this are essential for creating absolute certainty in yourself and your abilities.
2. NLP Swish
Create a vivid picture in your mind of something you don’t want. Make it big and bright. Then create a vivid picture of what you want to replace it with, making it small and dull. Now reverse them: Bring the image of what you want into the foreground, making it brighter and brighter. Add triumphant music and motion. Throw the image you don’t want into the background, turning it gray and colorless. Repeat this reversal three to five times. You’ll train your brain to amplify positives and weaken negatives.
3. Modeling
In order to elevate your life, you need to surround yourself with people who have achieved the success you want and focus on modeling their behaviors. You can find a mentor, join a mastermind group or model your boss or an executive you admire. The more role models you have, the more you’ll be able to leverage this NLP technique.
4. Mirroring
Mirroring is an NLP technique that leverages body language to make instant connections and build rapport with anyone. When you’re talking to someone, mirror your body language to theirs. If they are high energy, match that energy level. If their body language is relaxed, reflect that. You can even change the words you choose to use to match their vocabulary. The other person will automatically find you more trustworthy – because you are just like them.
5. Incantations
Incantations are a more powerful version of affirmations, which are one of the more mainstream neuro-linguistic programming techniques. An affirmation is a phrase you repeat to yourself about your beliefs and goals. Incantations take it a step further, changing your physiology as well as your words to create a state of total confidence.
They are about embodying the meaning behind the words, which is why they are so powerful. With incantations, not only are you speaking words of empowerment, you are using your body and your voice. You are changing your physiology and changing your state, leading to a different and more positive outlook and approach to each day.
[Top 5 NLP Techniques are downloaded from Tonny Robbins’ website]
Implementation of NLP on yourself and others
Colleagues at work
Life partner
Your kids and family
Relationship with yourself
Friends and an acquaintances
Strangers in everyday life
The ways you can start practicing NLP
Go out in a place where you don’t know anybody and start a small talk.
Try to get ‘‘yes’’ on the same ask you previously got ‘‘no.’’
Try not to get into a conflict with anybody for a week.
Teach someone NLP.
Question to ask yourself:
When did I use NLP in the past without being aware of it?
How can I implement more NLP tactics in everyday life and benefit from them?
With who do I want to share the idea of the NLP concept?Share
Questions to be answered:
Would you say for yourself that you are a great communicator?
Do you find people usually like you?
How easy is it for you to get what you want from people?
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